You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know (Hardcover)

Pre-Order Now Badge
You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know By Philip Gourevitch Cover Image
Not Yet Published


The highly anticipated and timely follow-up to Philip Gourevitch’s award-winning bestseller We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families.

Philip Gourevitch's unforgettable modern classic We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families opened our eyes to the 1994 genocide of Rwanda’s Tutsi minority: Close to a million people were murdered by their neighbors in one hundred days. Now Gourevitch brings us an astonishingly vivid and intimate exploration of how killers and survivors live together again in the same communities, grappling with seemingly impossible burdens of memory and forgetting, denial and confession, vengefulness and forgiveness.

A fiercely beautiful literary reckoning, You Hide That You Hate Me and I Hide That I Know—the culmination of twenty-five years of reporting on the aftermath of the slaughter—takes its title from a stark Rwandan adage that speaks to the uneasy trade-offs that reconciliation after near annihilation demands. Since the genocide, Rwanda has engaged in the most ambitious and sweeping process of accountability ever undertaken by any society. “Truth Heals” was the slogan. But truth also wounds. And truth is always contested.

As Gourevitch returns repeatedly over the decades to the same families in one hillside village, their accounts of killing and surviving, and of the life after, inform and enlarge one another, becoming ever more complex and charged with significance. These stories are at once as essential and as extreme as classical myths, illuminating the ways that we seek, individually and collectively, to negotiate our irreparable pasts in pursuit of a more habitable future. This deeply moving book continuously invites us—as only great writing can—to think, and to think again.

About the Author

Philip Gourevitch is a long-time staff writer at The New Yorker and a former editor of The Paris Review. He is the author of Standard Operating Procedure, A Cold Case, and We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families, which won numerous honors, including the National Book Critics Circle Award, and was counted by The Guardian among the 100 best nonfiction books of all time.

Product Details
ISBN: 9780374294106
ISBN-10: 0374294100
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Publication Date: May 14th, 2024
Pages: 224
Language: English


Digital Audio Books

Get a Gift Card

Gift Cards

Nine Stores in Sonoma, Napa and Marin Counties

Petaluma Store

140 Kentucky Street
click for hours & info


140 Kentucky Street
click for hours & info

Sebastopol Store

138 N.Main Street
click for hours & info

Santa Rosa Store

(Montgomery Village)
775 Village Court
click for hours & info

Healdsburg Store

104 Matheson Street
click for hours & info

Napa Store

1300 First Street, Suite 398

click for hours & info

Calistoga Store

1330 Lincoln Avenue
click for hours & info

San Rafael Store

1200 4th Street

click for hours & info

Novato Store

999 Grant Avenue
Suite 105
(415) 763-3052
click for hours & info

Larkspur Store
2419 Larkspur Landing Circle
(415) 870-9843
click for hours & info

Headquarters (Offices)

139 Edman Way 
click for hours & info